- Words: Over the past ten years I've simply told myself that I could not make this happen due to the specter of my credit score and past mistakes. I would tell my friends the same thing, along with other excuses. I never even tried to make it work.
- Actions: In late November, I met someone that would be a catalyst for much change in my life. This 20-something has accomplished much in his life, mostly due to action, and this made me make an assessment of my own life, that had been filled with in-action. He did nothing proactively but getting to know him stimulated an age old feeling I've had that my life has been a series of wasted talent. So it was time to take action. I came home, filled out an on-line application and now, December 27th, about 1 month later, I'm settling on a condo.
Wednesday, July 27, 2022
Actions vs Words
Much Ado About... Well Everything!
So Much, So Fast
Saturday, August 21, 2021
What am I doing here?
Wednesday, January 27, 2016
I'm as Mad as Hell, and I'm not Going to Take it Anymore! An Introduction to Series
Woe unto us! We, the people of the world, should have arrived at the self-evident conclusion that our leaders are the lesser among us. These people are not just those elected, but those self appointed. The celebrities, the billionaire class, the self identified gurus, intellectuals and assortment of other fools and mountebanks that fill our news streams daily. (By news streams I mean any method or source by which we receive information.)
Throughout history we have been kept in bondage, conflict and strife over the "isms". Communism, Socialism, racism, fascism, capitalism. It appears most words ending in ism are used to divide or rule. The isms have been foisted upon us through religion, war, greed, demagoguery, and our own unwillingness to accept that we are human beings and have natural rights. These rights belong to no church, no government, no landlord, no mortgage holder, no celebrity. These rights are inherent at birth.
Stop trying to look and act like people your claim to admire. What have any so called reality television personalities done for you? What has the President or any elected official done for you? Why do you feel the need to fit a body type, or clothing style to assimilate? Look in the mirror, that face you wake to every day is the only one that is deserving of your unwavering admiration. Others should earn your admiration through real actions to better humanity. Stop trying to emulate morons. Think about it, it's mass madness you maniacs! Question everything!!!
Everywhere you look today your are being told you aren't happy enough (by big Pharma), you aren't attractive enough (by the fashion industry and their narcissistic allies), you don't fit in (by the overall consumer culture that keeps us in debt slavery until death), you aren't educated enough to work (by a collusion between banks, government and higher education to keep you indebted until death for a useless piece of paper). STOP! This isn't you! This is a you that was created by a ideology that started long before you were born and is so ingrained in us that we accept it as reality. This is the straw man that was created to be you, but it's not. You are individual, you are legion, in self you find peace and courage.
Part of the problem can be found in how we educate the young. We have one of the saddest systems of education. (Read "The Deliberate Dumbing Down of America" by Charlotte Thomson Iserbyt, or just look for her on YouTube). These institutions no longer educate, they teach young people how to be compliant and obedient. They teach us how to accept without question. They train us to be slaves to to a complete absence of reason. We are being bred to be mindless consumers of garbage. Ask yourself why can't people spell or phonetically pronounce words. When did being culturally sensitive equate stooping to a lowest common denominator. If for a moment I could believe this was to allow the disadvantaged a stake in society I would be silent. It is however, the opposite. The best way to spot a fool is to allow him to act on his own accord.
Think about this, when I worked in a hotel many years back, the managers were being trained to speak Spanish, Vietnamese and a few other languages spoken by the back-of-house employees (dish washers, housekeepers, etc). This hotel never offered the antithesis to the workers. They would not be provided English lessons so that they could speak equally with their management. In microcosm this demonstrates how those that rule maintain authority by not allowing the working class the opportunity for education.
As individuals and as a community we can break down these hard edified ideologies that have enslaved generations of humanity. I can't say how right now, but first, in the words of Howard Beale in the movie Network said, "First you have to get mad..."
Peace and enlightenment to all.
Monday, March 30, 2015
Some Facebook Musings
I am comfortable saying that I have several true friends with whom I have communicated regularly. However, since the dawn of electronic communication, our personal interactions have been lacking. In our attempt to feel connected, I find that we are often more distant, more isolated than before. Our society has invested in amazing mass communication technology, but we have fallen short of coupling that with the humanity that lies within true knowledge of another.
I do not wish to sound like one of those people that pine for the "good ol' days". Progress is inevitable and should be welcomed as it provides us with tools that make our lives easier and more convenient. What I am suggesting is that we spend more time out in the world and less time sitting and staring at an illuminated screen to determine what our friends our doing or feeling.
A dear friend of mine often chastises me for not phoning him more often. Mea Culpa! He is correct. I have grown victim to opting for email or text messages to stay in touch. However, nothing says more to your friend than to hear your voice. I also have a friend who still writes letters, by hand if you can believe that, and mails them to me. No, he doesn't scan and email them, he actually puts a postage stamp on them and places them in the mail. I always feel great when I see a letter from him in my mailbox and have saved every one of them.
I know it seems difficult in our alleged busy lives to take the time to really connect. I am guilty of this same condition. However, ask yourself (if you are over 35 anyway), what you did before all of this communication technology existed. Were you less busy then? Probably not. When you wanted to go out to dinner with a friend you actually had to pick up a phone and call them. Was it that difficult?
So let's pull ourselves out of the house, away from the desk, and not take our "busy-ness" so seriously. Be human.
In Defense of Solitude - (edited and updated 1/7/2024)
I am sitting on my patio and enjoying choral masterpieces, a
fine red wine, and a great cigar. The chill that is normally present in the
October evening is replaced by a pleasant breeze. The cacophony of the crickets
jealously competes with my music. A
delicate breeze blows an autumn harvest of leaves around my feet, and they
twirl and dance in the natural choreography. It is as if the universe is smiling
upon me.
Why then do I feel such torpor, such solitude, such
melancholy? I know not. The affairs of time have cast a benevolent light upon
me. However, the same aforementioned wind blows through the holes in my heart
and whispers a song that is sad, yet somehow satisfying.
I have, like most, toiled in love's cruel game of
presentation and redaction. This has left me somewhat hollow of heart. Many
present themselves as wishing to chain your soul with kind words and dear
promises only to turnabout upon them in nary a fortnight. Though I have fallen
prey to this throughout my existence I refuse to disallow myself to feel love
again, even if so temporal.
Love, in its nature, is ethereal and fleeting. The only sure
way to have constancy in love is to direct it inward. That's not to deny others
the gift of your affection but to place paramount the love of self.
Very often we confuse amorous feelings with love, but amor is
desire and wanting. True love is neither desirous nor greedy. True love is
unconditional. However, it is human nature to place conditions on our affairs
with others. If we give love, we wish for it in return. This is therefore
desiring and wanting the affection of another. When this desired reciprocity
misses the mark, we call it unrequited. Yet truly we alone miss the point when
we expect such equitable results.
When two people, whether intimate partners, friends, or
family give love without wanting the bounty is overwhelming. We can go about
our existence knowing our disposition of love is genuine. This is why the
unconditional love of self reigns in its importance. This is why solitude isn't
to be judged but welcomed. It is that respite that allows us to focus on the
inevitability of life with open minds and hearts.
Who Are We, and What Do We Want? - (Edited and updated 1/7/2024)
Everyone wants something, and
I'm no exception. This missive is not about me whining about anything. Nor is
it about the jackals and fools that have occupied much of my space and time
during this past year; nor about missed opportunities due to action or
inaction; nor about external or internal circumstances that have led me to this
juncture. No, this is about the truth of human behavior.
A wise friend once told me,
"You only have yourself to blame for where you are". I was unwilling
to take this as constructive commentary at that time, and instead internalized
and personalized the comment as a personal affront. That was several years ago
and circumstances are vastly different. He was correct, and I can
"blame" all my successes and failures on the premise that it is all
about my choices and courses of action/inaction.
We have ourselves to thank for where we are in life. Every
decision we make is split. The etymology of the word "decision" will
demonstrate the clarity of its very definition and applicability herein.
I am as guilty as all when I
lament past decisions and the direction in which they've guided me. This is
human nature. Most people never graduate from their adolescent ideals of what
is "right" or "wrong". There is no right or wrong, only the
decision made and its consequence. Grow up and deal with how unsatisfying life
can be at times but take appropriate responsibility. Be realistic and
understand that no matter the intentions or actions of someone else, you only
have yourself to hold as the responsible party. This is not to say that good
wishes or someone's prayer or thoughts can't be accepted, but they do nothing
but offer temporary solace. Action requires effort. Passive effort is
balderdash and essentially meaningless. When someone offers "comfort from
their couch", graciously nod and maybe smile, but take it for what it is.
When you offer help to someone,
make sure it's something of use. A hug is nice, but only emotionally useful
until the embrace ends. If you want to help a hungry person, give them food. If
you care, in any capacity, do something viable. Let's be honest, it's human to
act out of wants and needs. You don't go to the grocer and expect to have
surgery, as you wouldn't go to the surgeon and ask for a loaf of bread. We are
what we bring to the proverbial table.
If you want to learn how to
build a bridge, learn architecture, engineering, and construction. It doesn't
mean you'll ever actually build one, but again that's up to the individual. I
spend hours reading and learning new skills or simply knowledge almost every
day. Knowledge is a good beginning step, but only useful when applied to skill
and utilized through productive action. This will usually require sincere
dedication and years of effort.
Good examples are my friends and
colleagues who engage in artistic endeavors. These are performers, actors,
singers, and other such talent. I cannot say that all of them are particularly
proficient in their chosen artistic endeavor, but they have managed to create a
positive situation out of the skill of self-promotion and have turned their
ability and artistic talents into a viable "resource" that people
consume. I commend this as they have acted based on a vision that was
self-motivated. I've also noticed that they, intentionally or not, surround
themselves with people who offer something toward their success, and tolerate
little else (save for the few that are ego motivated who enjoy the glory as
much, if not more than, the financial benefits). I don't deny the entertainer
their share of ego-based indulgence, as this is something that allows them to
be more creative in future performances and continue to please the audience. To
wit, the performer's "job" is to please the audience. Each successful
performance will lead to the next.
I have used performers as an
example due to my close work with many, as a talent agent, since 2008. This
example can be applied to any job or function. First responders are constantly
training to improve their awareness and effectiveness. Doctors, lawyers, and
other professionals undergo continuing education as a means of development and
often to maintain their professional license or certification to operate within
their profession.
The best salesmen are the ones
who close the deal plain and simple. Certainly, there are skills and talents
required to sell, such as being attentive to your client’s needs and/or
desires, but the salesman knows the only thing that matters for success in
their profession is turning potential into action – the close.
You need to bring what people
want or need, and if you cannot or haven't yet adopted a skill, then acquiesce,
and learn a way to make yourself useful. Always find the best fit between what
you offer and what the recipient wants. Otherwise, you spend most of your time
being unsatisfied and frustrating others.
Everyone wants something, and
I'm no exception. This missive is not about me whining about anything. Nor is
it about the jackals and fools that have occupied much of my space and time
during this past year; nor about missed opportunities due to action or
inaction; nor about external or internal circumstances that have led me to this
juncture. No, this is about the truth of human behavior.
A wise friend once told me,
"You only have yourself to blame for where you are". I was unwilling
to take this as constructive commentary at that time, and instead internalized
and personalized the comment as a personal affront. That was several years ago
and circumstances are vastly different. He was correct, and I can
"blame" all my successes and failures on the premise that it is all
about my choices and courses of action/inaction.
We have ourselves to thank for where we are in life. Every
decision we make is split. The etymology of the word "decision" will
demonstrate the clarity of its very definition and applicability herein.
I am as guilty as all when I
lament past decisions and the direction in which they've guided me. This is
human nature. Most people never graduate from their adolescent ideals of what
is "right" or "wrong". There is no right or wrong, only the
decision made and its consequence. Grow up and deal with how unsatisfying life
can be at times but take appropriate responsibility. Be realistic and
understand that no matter the intentions or actions of someone else, you only
have yourself to hold as the responsible party. This is not to say that good
wishes or someone's prayer or thoughts can't be accepted, but they do nothing
but offer temporary solace. Action requires effort. Passive effort is
balderdash and essentially meaningless. When someone offers "comfort from
their couch", graciously nod and maybe smile, but take it for what it is.
When you offer help to someone,
make sure it's something of use. A hug is nice, but only emotionally useful
until the embrace ends. If you want to help a hungry person, give them food. If
you care, in any capacity, do something viable. Let's be honest, it's human to
act out of wants and needs. You don't go to the grocer and expect to have
surgery, as you wouldn't go to the surgeon and ask for a loaf of bread. We are
what we bring to the proverbial table.
If you want to learn how to
build a bridge, learn architecture, engineering, and construction. It doesn't
mean you'll ever actually build one, but again that's up to the individual. I
spend hours reading and learning new skills or simply knowledge almost every
day. Knowledge is a good beginning step, but only useful when applied to skill
and utilized through productive action. This will usually require sincere
dedication and years of effort.
Good examples are my friends and
colleagues who engage in artistic endeavors. These are performers, actors,
singers, and other such talent. I cannot say that all of them are particularly
proficient in their chosen artistic endeavor, but they have managed to create a
positive situation out of the skill of self-promotion and have turned their
ability and artistic talents into a viable "resource" that people
consume. I commend this as they have acted based on a vision that was
self-motivated. I've also noticed that they, intentionally or not, surround
themselves with people who offer something toward their success, and tolerate
little else (save for the few that are ego motivated who enjoy the glory as
much, if not more than, the financial benefits). I don't deny the entertainer
their share of ego-based indulgence, as this is something that allows them to
be more creative in future performances and continue to please the audience. To
wit, the performer's "job" is to please the audience. Each successful
performance will lead to the next.
I have used performers as an
example due to my close work with many, as a talent agent, since 2008. This
example can be applied to any job or function. First responders are constantly
training to improve their awareness and effectiveness. Doctors, lawyers, and
other professionals undergo continuing education as a means of development and
often to maintain their professional license or certification to operate within
their profession.
The best salesmen are the ones
who close the deal plain and simple. Certainly, there are skills and talents
required to sell, such as being attentive to your client’s needs and/or
desires, but the salesman knows the only thing that matters for success in
their profession is turning potential into action – the close.
You need to bring what people
want or need, and if you cannot or haven't yet adopted a skill, then acquiesce,
and learn a way to make yourself useful. Always find the best fit between what
you offer and what the recipient wants. Otherwise, you spend most of your time
being unsatisfied and frustrating others.
Thursday, August 09, 2012
Fowl Play! - Part 1
Chapter 1: Prohibition
The cool rain fell in a fine mist as the moon shone through gossamer clouds. A lone woman hurried along the street as night fell and darkness ensconced the city. She covered her head with the hood of her couture overcaot. She was at Canal Street and Broadway, and would be soon nearing her destination. Amanda Delacroix could be shunned by her colleagues for the act she was about to commit, but the temptation of late was overwhelming. No one in the fashion industry would expect a supermodel of her caliber to engage in such an indulgence.Amanda made a quick right onto Lespanard Street and walked to the center of the block. She approached an unassuming five story building adjacent to a parking lot. She walked through the parking lot to the left side of the building. There was an unusually narrow grey colored door. She had been told to expect this by her closest friend, Marcus Roth. She knocked hard on the door, the requisite five times in quick succession. A speaker near the door crackled to life. “Finger lickin’”, she heard. Amanda could feel her heart beat with anticipation. She suppressed the shame and guilt associated with the act that has become an abomination in the eyes of most people in the city and the country at large. She replied, “Eat more chicken”. The door creaked open and she hurriedly stepped into the room.
Immediately her olfactory senses were taken to an old, familiar bandwidth as the smell of fried chicken filled the room. There were five tables set around the room, a small kitchen with a kettle for deep frying, and a table, with a green vase, where you would leave a small "donation". The light in the room was low, but all was visible. This was typical of the cluckeasy.
It was five years ago that Mayor Walter Bennings Ronberg put a ban on all fried food, with an emphasis on fried chicken. The city at first thought it was a great idea. He had already demonstrated the health benefits through tough anti-smoking policies; the banning of trans-fat; and the elimination of soft drinks over sixteen ounces.
“This ban will eliminate one of the greatest remaining threats to the health and safety of the citizens of this fine city. We will be a beacon of hope and inspiration to other cities throughout the country. I see an America that is free of fried, greasy, and unhealthy foods. To that end, I have set up a task force that will make certain that all frying equipment and ingredients are confiscated and destroyed. This evil will be eradicated! Those who violate the law will be prosecuted!”
The crowd, on that day five years prior, cheered their Mayor. They felt the power of his words and welcomed this intrusion on their ability to make personal choices. Within moments his words were broadcast across the country. Within months there were calls for a national ban, just like the greatest city in the country passed, on fried foods and sugary beverages.
Democratic Representative Saul Foolstead introduced such a bill and this would be known as the Foolstead Act. This Act forbade the sale or distribution of fried foods and/or the equipment and ingredients with which to prepare them. The penalties for violation of this rule include excessive fines and possible jail time.
Since its passage there have been many high-profile arrests of so - called boot-beekers. These organized crime syndicates would supply the cluckeasy with all it needed to provide customers with their sinful delicacy. The most famous of this ilk, and still a very free man, stepped into the cluckeasy where Amanda was gluttonously enjoying her meal.
A middle-aged man scampered from the kitchen area to greet his notorious guest. He approached him with what could only be called reverence. "Don Monella! Imma so happy to see you!" The middle aged approached his guest and kissed his ring.
"Frankie, it's always good to visit your fine establishment." Salvatore “Sal” Monella was always welcome in any cluckeasy as he was essentially the only supplier with the connections to provide everything needed for a great fried chicken meal. He continued, "My boys are worried that your orders have been slowing down."
"Imma sorry Don Monella, there hasn't been much business since-a 'dey raided Mario's joint in Harlem. The people are a-scared to have-a the chicken."
Three men joined Sal and stood beside and behind him. Sal took off his glasses and pointed and tapped them on Frankie's chest. Frankie felt his heart being to race and beads of sweat slid down his forehead. "Frankie, I've known you for a long time and don't want anything to sully our friendship. Are you sure you haven't been getting your birds from Jack Pardoe?"
Frankie began to shake and put his hands up as if praying, "No Don-aa Monella, I w-w-would never or-or-order from anyone else-a. Who else-a gonna take-a such good care to bring me the best of da boids, and the finest in da oils?"
Sal started at him for a moment then put his glasses back on and laughed. "Frankie, I'm sorry I suspected you, but I've heard rumors on the street of people going to Pardoe. I don't know this cat, but he's from somewhere in Maryland, and he's becoming a pain in my ass!" He looked at Frankie, who seemed relieved, "now, you'll tell me if he tries to contact you, capish?"
Frankie nodded, "Imma call you right away if that son-of-a-bitch-a shows-a his face around here." Sal smiled as best he could and shook Frankie's hand. "Good, and I have a few pounds of fresh chicken on the way for you, and these birds are on me." He turned and began to walk out with his henchman following behind.
Frankie called out, "Thank you so much-a Don Monella, you come-a by any time and I'll make-a you a special-a chicken dinner!"
Though Amanda could hear the bulk of this conversation, she kept her head down as she licked her fingers clean, then mopped them gently with a paper napkin. She rose, dropped another donation in the jar, and began to leave. Frankie smiled at her, "Thank-a you," he whispered. She sheepishly smiled back, and scurried out onto Lespanard, hoping the shame would pass.
Chapter 2: A Young Girl from Baltimore
Amanda Davis, destined to be Delacroix, was born on a sunny spring morning in Mercy Hospital in Baltimore, Maryland on May 7, 2010. She was a slight baby of six pounds and a few ounces. He shocking blue eyes were juxtaposed with a head of jet black hair that was pasted to her head. Sally Davis, Amanda's mother, was sweaty from the agony of child-birth, yet she clutched baby Amanda close to her and whispered, "I haven't a clue what I'm going to do with you." Tears were running down Sally's cheeks as she contemplated this misfortune.
Sally and Mortimer Davis had struggled through life with little to wear and often less to eat. Mortimer was in Salisbury for the past two months working as a journeyman in Frank Pardoe's poultry plants and farms. The conditions were grim, the pay was paltry, and his current job was about to end. The worst part for Mortimer was, at that moment unbeknownst to him, his beloved wife gave birth to their daughter.
Sunday, December 28, 2008
Into Tomorrow, Yesterday
Friday, October 24, 2008
Where The Hell Have I Been?
Greetings! It's been some time since I've captured your attention and inhabited your thoughts. There is so much to cover over the past twenty-two (22) months, but I promise to keep it concise. There will be parts where I go by each month or group several together. Without further adoo:
2007
February
With much help from several of my friends I moved into my new abode. The freedom it afforded me was glorious. I had sparse furnishings but big dreams. I was most happy when I was finally able to share this joy by having my mother over for a brief visit. It's always a nervous moment introducing parents to anything new. My mom always had a tendency to give both sides of all change, often focusing on the "what if" or negative scenario. This time she was only happy for me.
March
This is the month the clouds moved in. By the end of March my mother had, after a long battle with cancer, moved on from this earth. Her death was sudden and took my brother and I by surprise. She shared with no one how sick she really was. The day in February, when she visited my place, I accompanied her to an appointment with her doctor. I could tell then that the cancer was prevalent throughout her lungs. She denied it as we drove home. I felt it best to agree with her that there was nothing out of the ordinary. It was an unspoken agreement we shared. Mom wanted to live her time as she chose, and I would not stand in her way. It was my last gift to her, peace.
I remember her last day as if it were right now. The most vital part of the day, however, was at night in the hospital. I remember my Uncle saying that is was sort of "morbid" for all of us to be waiting around. You see, by this point, we knew her time was near. This conversation was added to the swirling thoughts already in my head as I had a prior conversation with my friend Dawn regarding death. She recounted how her Mother was in a similar state, live but in the alleged euphoric state of being under the influence of morphine. It was during this time that relatives and loved ones were always by her side. It wasn't until they gave her Mother time alone that she was able to let go and be in peace. The next part was the hardest for me.
I approached my mother's siblings (my brother had gone back home because he was exhausted from a very long day) and told them. "You know we have all had a chance to rest, but Mom hasn't. I think we should go home and give her that chance." At first they argued that she would want them there by her side. I said nothing but it only took a moment for the words to sink it. We all agreed to leave. I was the last to say goodbye. Two hours later the hospital called and Mom had finally gone to her final rest. Oddly, soon before my phone rang from the hospital I felt her say goodbye to me. Mom and I always had a special connection and now it had evolved into one more etheral.
I quickly took on the responsibility of managing the affairs of her estate. My brother and I agreed to this, and I'm happy we did. I could tell that her passing was somehow even more devastating to him than me. You see, my brother has the "real" family. He has a wife and a son, or from Mom's perspective, grandson. The layers of loss he felt must have been crushing and I didn't want him bothered with having to make decisions that on the surface may appear detached from the death of Mom. My attention was focused on the business of the estate, I would mourn much, much later.
April
The clouds were drifting away. I was able to pull together a kick-ass housewarming, complete with a well-furnished condo and new kitchen appliances. This was for me a celebration of my Mother's life. You see, it was from inheritance that I was able to share this time with my dearest friends. I had almost 40 people here. The housewarming was truly one of the happiest days of my life. It was truly yang-yin. The sharing of my home and good fortune brought on by the loss of one so dear to me.
May - August
This time was pretty much business as usual. I spent time with friends, ate, drank and was quite merry. Then came September.
September
Nine days into this month I would turn forty (40). I decided to throw a party. I didn't really want to necessarily have a birthday party, but just wanted my friends by my side. What a party it was! Then, one week later, my friends Vincent and Dwayne kept their promise to take me to dinner at the Helmand, a lovely Afghani restaurant in Baltimore. Much to my surprise when I arrived it was an actual birthday celebration for me, with many of my friends, even some from the party the week before in attendance! I was so moved by this act and it would mark the very last time I remember crying.
October - December
I don't remember much of this time period except that I had a very nice Thanksgiving dinner with ten (10) of us in attendance. This was the first "dinner party" I had at my place and it was so warm and wonderful. I was beginning to mourn the loss of my mother. I had no interest in family. This is not because I don't care about them, but I couldn't bear hearing anyone speak of my Mother (or Father). I know that every time the family gets together someone has to bring up "I wish (your) dad/mom were here" or "I know how much you miss them". The truth is no one has any idea how much I do miss them, and I don't care to share that. The pain is too deep for me to bear.
2008
January - Today
This year is so fresh in my thoughts, or at least what's left of my enervated mind, that I'll compress it into a few paragraphs.
I began the year by starting a Talent Management business. I had a business partner, but that didn't work out very well. So the business is still in existence, but not much is happening with it right now. We started off with such enthusiasm, but that waned over the course of the year and after spending thousands of dollars to no avail. I am still pursuing it, but only from a different angle and with different associates.
I also decided that I wanted to become and independent consultant for my "daytime" occupation as a budget analyst for the Federal government. I tried to negotiate this with my then employer, but we couldn't come to terms.
I was crestfallen. I really needed this opportunity to manage my own destiny. Finally a white-knight came to my rescue. Actually he's an Indian-American knight, and was willing to use my services as an independent consultant under his company. This decision has been a bit scary, but I can't complain now that I'm now better off financially.
This year so far has been rather "bland". I haven't spent much time with my friends; haven't seen my family since the passing of my mother; had a falling out with a cousin I truly love; and, had to make some rash decisions regarding my Talent Management business. This was also the year I learned how to truly understand the intentions of people. I've had far too many disappointments with humanity. I've done my best in realizing that all is temporary, so I think I'll finish off this year pretty well.
I guess this is a good time to offer apologies to my friends and loved ones for being so distant. I've meant not to hurt anyone. I've really just been trying to make all the adjustments to my life so that I can come out of this "funk" relatively unscathed. Either way, my mourning continues, not just for the loss of Mom, but also for the other losses and disappointments that have come this year, however I have yet to cry.